Julia is back! November 1, 1851 -A month wrap-up

November. 1851. New York.
A fine month, not cold, but two slight snows.
Mr friends called on me, and the
time would have passed charmingly away, had not my lungs
been delicate, this is the draw back to my happiness.
Cornelius, Maria, the Dr, Benjamin, paid us a visit in this month.
Julia went to a party at Matilda Remsen’s. Annie Lawrence
came home with her to stay all night.
Mrs Howe, and her little son Lawrence dined with me.
Mr, Mrs Swain passed an evening.
The children became interested in their studies.
Mr [Parson] & Mr Van Winkle, recommend music teachers to Julia
I must decide.
Miss Wetherby and brother George paid is a visit of three days.
Mr Knowlton passed an evening. Mr H. [showed] him his “Wax
Lady”, an addition to our curiosities
Mr H. purchased black cloth cloaks embroidered for J & I.
$43. each . and gave me permission to get any other article
I wished, so I took a Comb. bag, sleeves &collars. Card. case
and so forth. G. spoiles me by his indulgence, but I try to do
and be all that he desires, as a poor return for his kindness.
Black uncut bonnets with thin edge for Julia and self in this


October 1851 – “The month wrap-up”

Thursday. 2nd October 1851.
Mr H. and the boys took the baggage to
the boat before light. Mr H. returned for Julia and myself, we took
the cars, and arrived safe at home be ten oclock. Mr Knowlton
handed Julia in the car; bade us farewell.
I was enchanted to get home, and found many fine improve
ments. Paint, Gas, new carpets, every thing in order.
Julia out of humour with the city, set off to dine with her
grandmother. She is difficult to suit.
This month was fine and I enjoyed my own home. A cold kept
me within doors for a week. We purchased our Mourning
and it gave me some trouble to get it made up.
Louis & Remsen were fitted with two new suits. Caps. Gaiters.
Our [Rouge] put in order.
The trio, returned to school in this month. Louis & Remsen
commence finely, Julia murmers and find study tiresome.

September 30 and October 1, 1851 – “Getting ready for the move back to the city”

Tuesday. 30th Sep. 1851. Sing Sing. N.Y.

Cool, high winds, and dark clouds like snow squalls.
The last day of September, and the last lingerings of
Summer. Louis took Mrs S. and Julia to Sing Sing. on their return
I went to Tarry town, and took Miss Sarah, with us. We left her
by the church, and had a charming ride back, nothing to mar
the beauty of the scenery. The woods look lovely, so gay & so fresh
since the Rain. I packed our trunks, to be in readiness for
a start. Julia went to call on Miss Reymes with Miss W. I met
them on the road. Invited Miss W. to take tea with us; she declined
her mother expected from the city, Julia went to the Cars with
them. I sat by a fire part of the day. my feet cold by turns.
Miss W. and her two brothers passed the evening. They sat untill
after ten oclock. We had music, and grapes, the piano out of tune,
made me nervous. I could not sleep after such [dissapation], my
feet cold, and frame trembling. Passed a restless night; dreaming of
wild horses and Tom W. The weather is cold, and I feel it more at
night, although I still persevere and lie on a mattress.Wednesday, will soon arrive and then I should see G; hope he will feel better, and ready to look after our immense
quantity of baggage. Louis, took his last ride on David, to the
village, met Julia with the W.s.

Wednesday. 1st of October. 1851. Sing Sing.
Beautiful day.
I prepared all the baggage.
Mrs Wetherby , and daughter, Mrs Ogiline and friend Mrs Smith, Debby Ann
called to bid us farewell. Mr Hasbrouck arrived, in good health.
We took our last tea with Mrs Swain. Went to bed, but not to sleep
Restless from the thought of our easy start, in the morning.

September 28 and 29, 1851 – “Reflections on a lost father and packing for the return to the City”

Sunday. 28th Sep. 1851.
Mist, and showers, with gleams of sun.shine.
Mr Hasbrouck. thinks himself bet.
ter this morning, his medicine affects him. Complains of a cold
numbness in his hands, and legs; he always feels this when sick.
It makes me sad to see him look so miserable, and thin.
Louis feels better to.day. I gave him a [Serdlets] powder. He behaves
very well.
Julia went to church in the afternoon to “St Marys”. had the honor of
shaking hands with the new Bishop[,] Dr Creighton, elected last week.
She walked home with the Wetherby’s; and Mrs Swain. Remsen took
Mr Swain to the boat. I slept two hours. like indian summer
no fire needed. Mr H. relished some broth for dinner; his mouth
bitter; and taste gone. His resolution to diet would be the finest remedy,
he does not pursue a good course of living.

Monday. 29th Sept./1851.
Lovely morning, clouds, and showers in the horizon.
Mr H. left in the nine oclock train.
He seemed a little better, but I felt almost nervous to go with him.
I am so fearfull he will get worse or be imprudent. How can I
wait until Wednesday, to hear or see him! Julia went to the
cars with him, Louis drove. I went to Tarry town, on their return.
It was charming to ride through the woods, the sun very hot.
Packed my trunk since dinner, the clouds dull, and very sad.
Compelled Julia to pack hers also, she is decidedly provoking.
Rain commenced to fall; I dread a long storm. I wish
my self at home and could see G. for an hour.
Remsen spent this day in fishing caught five and one eel. which
he ate for his_dinner. There is but little rideing [sic] to.day, every thing
is quiet and composed, I should like a gay friend to.night ; the coun[-]
try is charming, but we require some bright lively souls, to enliven
the scene. I have missed congeniality this summer, books are my
dearest resource, and never tire; get action and the human voice is
oft times needed to give life to the written words.
My father’s death, gives me much hidden grief. I think
and dream of him nightly. Sometimes he appears as in health, and
speaks and acts as in former days; and again I have thrown my
arms around him and felt as if my heart would break because
he must die. Then his long and patient suffering comes before me,
his lonely dying hour, and his wasted altered body, how it carries me
to my own, last hours. perhaps less blessed than his; poor Saint.

We sat around the table to sew this evening. I made a Cap for Julia.
She amused us by singing her list of darky songs, and seemed in fine
spirits, even Miss Sarah, was obliged to relax her prim face to a smile.
She thinks Julia too much of a trifler, and will not exercise her many
defects. Perhaps she sees [right]. I find her averse to any fixed duties.
and wish her less bright for society; and more bright for home.
We left the parlour at nine, I slept more comfortable in my own
room, than in the spare bed room.

September 25-27, 1851 – “Two patients”

Thursday. 25th Sep. 1851. Cold morning, but pleasant in the sun.

G. left early, I was cold and very stiff, my bones ached, but
I would not lie in bed. Walked around, when it became warmer.
Miss Reymes, called to see me, set a few moments. quite fashionable.
G. came up, quite cold, and shivering. Took his tea and went to his bed
early. I sat later, having slept two hours before tea; to rest my bones.
He brought a note from Rima, handed by Mr Cornell; for Julia. an invitation.

Friday. 26th Sept. 1851. A fine day, some clouds threatening.

Mr H. complains of chills, his bowels, and seems feverish;
was very restless, and wakefull through the night. Intends remaining
in the city to take a “hot bath, and sweat”. Thinks cold had affected him.
I felt better this morning, not so cold or stiff. Rode a few miles with
Louis, the trotting waggon hard and too airy for my comfort or taste.
Met Miss W. and brother on horse back.
G. sent me a tribune, I read the news. and then came dinner;
my appetite good, I enjoying every thing, and often indulger too much
for a “Cold water concert”. Mrs S. pleased my taste in her deserts.
The horses, ran away this morning, but were caught up by Minna’s.
Old Mr Leggett, stopped them from going to Tarry town and the boys
recaptured them soon. I have not touched a needle to.day, my time
____ away, with books, and walking; and watching the river, and
now changing scenery. The foliage is gay and falling into the ______.
and yellow leaf of old age. Julia went with the Wetherby’s to take tea
at Mrs Todds, her son going to California , to.morrow. They staid out until
near eleven oclock. Sarah sat up for her. I did not hear her return.
We sat in the parlour sewing until nine. Night. cap my work.

Saturday. 27th Sep. 1851. Warm as summer, lovely day indeed.

Louis took a waggon [sic] load to Sing Sing. to amuse the boys. I promised
them a ride. It was Josy’s birth.day, Julia bought him a toy & candy.
Mrs S. went with them. I rode to Tarry town, on their return,it was
truly delightfull, and our pony went well. Debby Ann Leggett told

us of the death of John’s child.
We dined, my little pyramids of starch, a favourate desert. Mrs S. gives
them to me once a week. I slept a few moments, the flies annoy
me too much, so I jumped up, to write this.
Tried to get Julia to trim her cap, she is very indolent and difficult to
manage; I despair of making her usefull; her taste is so much
for excitement, and company. Remsen wants me to write about him;
he must wait for my new book.
Mr Hasbrouck came up in the cars, looking very sick. he complains
of cold and bilious affections of the bowels. Had been in bed since four
oclock yesterday. He took two blue pills, soon after his arrival and went
to bed; at twelve oclock, a dose of oil, this kept him weak, and he
kept his bed late. Dieting will I hope restore him, his flesh has
gone in two days; and his eyes and skin look badly; tongue furred.
Louis, also went to bed in a high fever, so we had two patients.
I soaked their feet, and tried to make them comfortable.
I slept in the spare room with Julia. Remsen took her room.
Miss Davis, kindly called Mr H. at twelve to take his oil.
A nervous head ache troubled me after going to bed, a friend still in Mrs S.
Mr Swain, came up late. Paid C. Hoyt. $5.